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amdusiaseyes asked: I ran into my ex and I feel bad because I looked in his eyes and just saw the broken heart. I quit my job as well, I'm trying to stop and I wish to travel the world with just a backpack and be free but ultimately I will not survive without money in my mind, when I know the universe will supply me with whatever I wish. How can I overcome my obstacles?
Progress doesn’t always come quickly.
Progress may seem excruciatingly slow. There will be times when you attach to things and situations that you want, which will make it difficult to be fully in the present moment. It’s impossible to be mindful when you’re dwelling on the past or obsessing about the future.
We all do those things sometimes. I’ve experienced it countless times in my own life. The more I want something, the more I fixate on not having it and wanting to get it.
Once I release the attachment and focus on being grateful for what I have in the moment, my life seems to shift, and progress seems to happen naturally.
Anonymous asked: My best friend who is also the love of my life cheated on me. We talked things through and I had time away from her. I still love her and I told her so. She just keeps on saying sorry for the pain she caused. Sorry isn't just cutting it out, and though I really want to continue being friends with her it's getting really difficult so I decided that I'll just go away without saying goodbye. Am I doing the right thing? What else can I do? I still feel betrayed. Thanks.
The Buddha said that, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
Put this way, it makes a lot of sense. We can’t possibly feel better if we choose to hurt ourselves. And yet it can still be so hard to forgive and move on.
Psychologists suggest we don’t do anything unless there’s a payoff in doing it. We’re wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain; we’d only cling to a hot coal if we feared a worse pain in dropping it.
But that’s the thing: We can’t possibly know how it will feel to let go until we muster the strength to do it. We can’t even fathom the transformative and healing power of forgiveness until we challenge ourselves to embrace it.
Many times, it will be a challenge—perhaps the greatest we’ve ever known. It might take time, and it might require a sense of compassion we don’t feel someone deserves. Regardless, we deserve that relief.
In giving it to ourselves, we may finally feel the peace to consider that someone else does, as well.
Not all relationships can be healed, but all pain can transform into healing. That means it’s up to us to decide whether it’s time to let go of the person, or let go of the story that keeps us in anger.